1.      Does your partner threaten you? 

2. Does your partner say they’ll end the relationship, tell you or imply that they will hurt themselves if you don’t do what they want?
   

3. Does your partner always want more, no matter what you give?
   

4. Regularly assume you will allow them to have their own way?
   

5. Ignore or discount your feelings?

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6. Make lavish promises, which depend on your behaviour and then rarely keep them?
   

7. Constantly put you down, saying that you are selfish, bad, greedy, unfeeling and uncaring?
   

8. Do they put you down by calling you names?
   

9. Shower you with gifts when you give in to them, but ruin things when you don’t?
   

10. Have you lost friends and or your family because your partner doesn’t like them?

11.  Do you feel isolated?
    

12. Does your partner make you do things that leave you feeling uncomfortable or bad about yourself?
    

13.  Do you feel you don't  have choices about what “you” want to do , time, money, the way you dress, the friends you have , what time you go to bed, what time you eat, when or if you can go out?
    

14. Is your partner physically violent to you punching, grabbing and pushing?
    

15. Does your relationship feel oppressive?
    

16. Do you feel you have the right to say yes or no?
    

Have you answered “yes” to any of these questions? You may find reading the following links helpful.